Assalamualaikum wbt and howdy?
It has been a while and alhamdulillah I am just finished with the first exam, three more to go in the next every two months, insyaAllah. I haven't been home for 'few' weeks.. nah, a just a few days haha
We all have our own dreams and some of us might have their own list of wishlist, some are relevant and some are not. But I had found out that some of us have this one unrealistic dream, which someone had told me that they wanted to achieve that dream of being somebody else.
There were a few people who came and talked to me and they were asking me all those stuff about my life, backgrounds, etc etc. Maybe some of them had noticed that I had been changed. I once told those people about how I changed and the feedback were positive, still then. Some were just like 'I wish that I got the chance to change' 'Thanks for the unrevealed story, I just noticed about the lesson.'
They were who came and said 'I wish that I am you.' 'I want a life exactly like yours' and they weren't just saying those words. They did what I did, almost in every thing. and they weren't being themselves.
What makes you to have that kind of dream? What did encourage you to be like another people?
Is it just because of something great happened to that person you want to be?
If you do dream to be like others, it is not wrong like 100% wrong. No. People are different and because of that, for sure our lives are different, never the same with others. Even twins aren't having the same life, the same feeling, the same experiences.
يَـٰٓأَيُّہَا ٱلنَّاسُ إِنَّا خَلَقۡنَـٰكُم مِّن ذَكَرٍ۬ وَأُنثَىٰ وَجَعَلۡنَـٰكُمۡ شُعُوبً۬ا وَقَبَآٮِٕلَ لِتَعَارَفُوٓاْۚ إِنَّ أَڪۡرَمَكُمۡ عِندَ ٱللَّهِ أَتۡقَٮٰكُمۡۚ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ عَلِيمٌ خَبِيرٌ۬Those who were copying what I did won't be having the same life like I did. Instead, they might be stressed of doing that as they are doing something that isn't applicable to their condition. If you want to be like that another person, no. Aim to be better than them. and believe that you can. Make that another people as a ruler - kayu pengukur or whatever for your new start. Set in your mind whenever it crosses to feel doing the same thing like other people;
O mankind, indeed We have created you from male and female and made you peoples and tribes that you may know one another. Indeed, the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous of you. Indeed, Allah is Knowing and Acquainted(49:13)
- I have to do better than him/her.
Same goes to the appearance. There's a few people who when they watch people start to change their dress code and stuff they are doing the same without thinking the consequences. Changing the dress code to a better one is good and nothing is wrong with it. But have you think that are you ready for the change? Are you mentally and physically ready with what will you face later? Some people they aren't ready for the change yet but they have changed drastically fast. Soon, they couldn't even bear with the consequences of the change like critics and comments from people, losing friends and etc etc the extreme weather changing as when you are starting to wear hijab for the first time, it is kinda hot inside. If you are a new hijabis, it would take you some time to get used to the hijab and it is advised for you to wear something comfortable and light. It is not like you have to wear the long hijab with purdah or niqab or burqa as soon as you are hijab-ed.
we have to take time in changing and trying to be exactly like others isn't the best way. Do it in ways that you are comfortable with and not burdening you but still according to the syariah.
Believe me, if you don't stop looking for the gift that you'd wished for years, it will come in surprising and unexpected ways. Be true and have faith in Allah. He has planned every thing for us and the best plans ever.